Collected Works of Sri Aurobindo, enemy, forgiveness, hatred, India, jealousy, mirror, Mirror Effect, persoanl development, Philosophy, Religion and Spirituality, Self Development, Sri Aurobindo, to forgive
I have recently become a fan of ThinkTraffic and have made a commitment to write only EPIC SHIT CONTENT. As part of this commitment, I am launching a series of articles that will help you divinize your life!
The very first aspect is what I call The Mirror Effect. No, its not my original. It is a completely borrowed concept from one of my most favourite people. Sri Aurobindo.
Sri Aurobindo has written how every time we find fault in others, we must dig deep and see how we are displaying the same fault in some other aspect of our lives. With somebody else. This is what I call Mirroring. And what better way to use it than to make friends with your own enemy!
I would like to share with you two real examples of my life to help you see how we mirror in life and how we can use it lead more peaceful, happy and divine lives.
I used to have a rebellious colleague at my previous employer. I used to detest his attitude. Every time I asked him to do something, he would rebel. He was driving me nuts. I decided to apply Sri Aurobindo’s method to it. When I applied the mirror framework to it, i had to dig deeper to understand what I really disliked about him. I realized i detested his dis-respect for authority. His dis-respect for my own authority.I smiled that day. Smiled and Smiled and Smiled. I smile everytime I think about him.
I have always dis-respected authority. Starting from grand parents, to parents, to in-laws, to bosses. I have always been a Rebel. I will always be one. That’s in my DNA. AND , and, and, and, here I was….. resenting dis-respect. When it came to ME. I have always been a major rebel against double standards: ) Ha ha ha! and here I was displaying my double standards in the most sophisticated manner. Nicely hidden under the garb of my spiritual self.
This was the first time Mirroring hit me. Into my Being. And I decided to apply it every where. This experience with my colleague taught me to mirror every where. I have ever been grateful to him for being who he was. Everytime I met him I smiled to myself. I became aware of his resentment and mine. And one day I could just accept myself the way I was , with all my rebellious nature and double standards and realized that the very same day I could accept him the way he was. With all his rebellious nature. I realized for the first time in my life, how difficult I have been with my parents and grand parents. How difficult it must have been for them to handle me. I always took pride in being a good manager and here I was finding it difficult to handle a difficult person. I decided to equip myself with skills to handle him. To understand him better. To accept him better. The more I accepted him, I accepted myself better. This experience transformed me. I stopped being rude and curt to people. I started to understand others perspectives. Be patient with others ( I am known for my fiery temper). And it goes on..
Mirroring was alchemical. It touched my consciousness. It transformed my perspective from a deep level.
Let me now share the second example with you. It is about something that happened about 3-4 years ago. I have a friend whom I was just unable to accept. I have a habit to dig deeper especially on Saturday mornings.
I dug deeper to see what’s happening. I realized I could not forgive him for the way he treated me in the past. The more I thought of him, the more I detested him.I wanted to move on, but I was unable to. I wanted to forgive him , but was unable to. I dug deeper to see why I hated him. I hated him for what he did to me. I applied the mirror to see if I had done the same thing to anyone else. No I had not. So what happened to my great mirror effect? I dropped it and dug deeper. I saw clearly that I was very unhappy that I was treated in a bad manner. I dug deeper. Why did I let it happen to me? Why was I quiet? Why did I accept all the SHIT that was there in those 3 years? Because I saw tremendous benefit by being silent. So I was responsible for what happened.(It was very hard and laborious process). Why did I not voice my opinion then? Why am I scolding him today for what happened 3 years ago? I dug deeper.
I realized that I could not forgive myself for having tolerated all that SHIT.
That was IT.The Mirror again!
It came back haunting me. I could not forgive myself. I tried forgiving him but I realized that I had to forgive myself. That day I realized that there is no concept of forgiving someone else. You have to learn to forgive yourself. Till you do that, the feelings of hatred will haunt. Within you. I dug deeper to see why I tolerated him. I tolerated him because that relationship and the allied relationships were very important to me. I wanted them to be successful. So I tolerated for my own benefit. I nicely hid this beneath me and was trying to be all great by forgiving someone else. So next time you tell yourself, I have forgiven someone else. Remind yourself, you have forgiven your ownself.
I realized once again how The Mirror Effect was so powerful. How it is already there everywhere. We just need to dig deeper to see its fine working. I also realized that I can only use it when I am completely honest. With Myself.
You can also use it. By your own self. For Your Own self. You do NOT have to share the details with anyone. It is for your OWN benefit. Use it. Profit From it. Apply it for feelings of jealousy. Competitiveness. Resentment. Unforgiving nature. Excessive Spending. Being Stingy.When others are cunning with you. When you are deeply hurt in love because of someone else. When you think you have been cheated and above all to see yourself in your enemy!
Apply it to whatever makes you unhappy. and THAT list is definitely endless.
Come share your comments on where you can use the mirror effect. Share how you have used it. Leave your comments. If you like this post, HIT the like button. Subscribe to the blog if you like what I write.
Share this post on facebook and twitter if you like it. Get people to start using the Mirror Effect.
Look out for the next post on Dig Deep to Divinity.
Love and Light,